i remember conversations my father and mother would have that would drive my dad NUTS. he would ask a question of my mother and she would answer him in such a way i could ackshully see my dad's head hurting.
i used to laugh. it was funny.
one time my mom was trying to call our neighbors, but she kept dialing our number, which kept ringing back busy. finally, (we were sitting at the table eating dinner) when she told us what number she was dialing, and we told her that was OUR number, she burst out with, "why don't you answer when i called ME?!?!?"
it was hilarious.
back then.
now, i am married.
yeah, you know what's coming.
The other day i'm in super clean mode. putting away christmas, making trips to the storage garage we share with our friends, doing laundry, cleaning, etcetera.
I'm about to do a garbage run, so i ask my wife (who's breastfeeeding Brutus at the time-hey, maybe that's it-any chance she'e leaking brain cells in her boob milk? do they grow back? easy people, i just want my usually-smarter-than-me, more common-sense-than-me wife back) if the garbages need to be emptied.
it was a simple query. "are the garbages in the bathrooms empty?"
two things to consider; 1) the garbage bags in the bathrooms, 2) are they empty. question mark.
i was looking for either a yes (meaning the wifey had already emptied them, a distinct possibility, since i was already looking at several plastic garbage bags full of stuff), or a no, meaning the garbages in the bathrooms were still full.
yes (go empty the garbages) or no (already done).
what i got was, 'yes, they need to be emptied.'
i had instant brain freeze and flashback to all those times i'd laughed at my old man slowly being driven to drink/insane by my moms crazy answers.
so, do women go to school to learn how to do this, is it passed on from generation to generation, is it genetic or what?
8 comments:
Nurse J, her instructions were completely clear. Empty the damn garbage!
Clearly you need some lessons in how to speak 'wife.'
i know, i know. it still made my head hurt momentarily.
Why? She answered the implicit question you put: "Do I need to empty those?". If that sounds weird, read this: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Four_sides_model. You focused on the matter layer, she on the appeal layer. At least I think so ;-)))
I'm not sure :P
Could you phrase that in the form of a question please?
OK, like me you work in a woman dominated field. You can not win even at home, period.
How many times at work are you asked why are guys like that? How often do you have to hear about bad boyfriends and hot flashes? Sometimes in the breakroom they talk to you like one of the girls.
So yes it is passed on, genetic and more importantly you should just know what they mean, no matter what they say.
i TOTALLY have to hear about how bad everyone's husband is!! then i get he snide questions, like, nurse j, do YOU know how to load a dishwasher? do you leave your socks laying around for days? etcetera. blah!
I feel your pain!
wv = miesses
Really!
hahahahahahahahahaha, I have had this very conversation with my own husband many times! Thanks for putting it into words, that's great. Just hang in there and keep asking questions even when you think you might know the answer, because you'd hate to be wrong.
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